A BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIP!

"Relationship based on mutual need brings only conflict. However interdependent we are on each other, we are using each other for a purpose, for an end. With an end in view, relationship is not. You may use me and I may use you. In this usage, we lose contact. A society based on mutual usage is the foundation of violence. When we use another, we have only the picture of the end to be gained. The end, the gain, prevents relationship, communion. In the usage of another, however gratifying and comforting it may be, there is always fear. To avoid this fear, we must possess. From this possession there arises envy, suspicion and constant conflict. Such a relationship can never bring about happiness.

A society whose structure is based on mere need, whether physiological or psychological, must breed conflict, confusion and misery. Society is the projection of yourself in relation with another, in which the need and the use are predominant. When you use another for your need, physically or psychologically, in actuality there is no relationship at all; you really have no contact with the other, no communion with the other. How can you have communion with the other, when the other is used as a piece of furniture, for your convenience and comfort? So, it is essential to understand the significance of relationship in daily life"

The above quote compelled me to think about the most important relationship in our life called 'marriage'. True, the marriage is supposed to be a naturally occurring event in our life but we have made it the most artificial phenomenon in the process of searching the soul mate. Is it not like that soul mate just appears before you while traveling on the journey of life and you just cannot search him/her? What you search out is your business partner and not the soul mate. During the search you weigh out all the pros and cons on the basis whether the relationship is going to benefit you in the aspects, which you think are very important in your life. when a relationship is based on expectations it cannot even be called friendship, let alone marriage. Marriage means merging into one. Then only can it be a bliss. No give and take! Which can happen only on a natural course which the society has named as 'love marriage'.
The rituals reinforce the concept of retaining identities all the more. Rarely I have seen that the ritual of marriage to be performed as spiritual and blissful event. It has just become the stage to flaunt money power by groom's and bride's side both. Dowry and expensive gifts to relatives of the groom are seen as the symbol of respect ought to be shown by bride's side for the groom's side. All this amount to widen their identities rather than merging them. The mutual love and respect is lost somewhere during the whole process if it becomes compulsion. What can you expect out of such long term relationship? Conflicts, confusions and miseries!

GRATITUDE....

I will not beg you
Though
I know
You are
OMNIPOTENT
As
I know
You are also
OMNISCIENT
And know
What is apt for me
Before I know
And do the needful
Before I pray for

Indeed
I am
Grateful to you
For
Whatever bestowed
Without asking !
Without earning!!
Without deserving!!!
OM...

Greetings....

To the beautiful couple in all the land;
May your anniversary be happy and grand;
3yrs ago on this day of 23rd November;
You started a new life with your perfect partner;
And left with me the most cherished moments to remember;
Wish you all the happiness in the world, O my dear daughter!
And wish a very happy marriage anniversary!
To Dear Sumit and Aditi!!

Birthday Musings...

It was 3rd Oct. morn
When you were born
It is bliss to have a Daughter
As dear as you
You have filled my world with
Love and laughter
Happy Birthday To You
Dear Meetu

SILENCE......

In my silent self
Not letting in anyone
Not even myself
Everything appears perfectly right
Acceptance is the only choice
No desire,no fright
Darkness does not exist at all
Days and nights appear equally bright
Time ceases to be
Just witnessing
Ephemeral breath
Total calmness
In the sea of tranquility
No waiting
Even for death
Immersed in
Total
SILENCE

परिधियाँ (From old diary-2)

ये परिधियाँ
इस तरह घेरे हैं मुझे
कि
मैं इस सीमित वृत में
सिमटा हुआ हूँ
सिकुड़ा हुआ हूँ
और
बाहर आना चाहता हूँ
इन गोलाइयों से
इन्हें खींचने कि कोशिश में
घायल सा हुआ
लांघना चाहता हूँ
वृत कि सीमाओं को
थक जाता हूँ
और
दबाव हटते ही
ये परिधियाँ
रबड़ कि तरह
फिर समेत लेती हैं
मुझे
उसी दायरे में

Tranlation

Trapped in the circle
I want to break free
Bound in limits
Feeling contraction
want to go out of the circle
Trying hard
Wounded
Tired
As soon as about to cross
Can't withstand
The pressure
The circumference
Like a rubber
Traps me again
In the same circle

I AM NEVER ISOLATE.....(from my old diary...part 1)

I am never ISOLATE

I know my destination, thou' do not know the way
Let me move on, am not going to stay

Here I go, I am not alone
The whole nature accompanies, me all along

I can hear, the call of river
Dancing before me, allays my fear

Chirping birds,singing songs
Empower my feet,make me strong

Winds scratch past, whispering in my ears
Time is less, move fast o'dear

Clouds smile, giving me salute
Shower their blessings, what a tribute!

Fragrance of flowers, keeps rejuvenate
Filled with gratitude, bow to all my mates

Who says I am alone, I am never Isolate
I am never isolate, Iam never Isolate

(This piece of poetry is from my old diary, written when I was sixteen years old)

परमानन्द .....

न जाने कौन से सुर हैं वो
जो छू जाते हैं अंतर्मन को
कभी सहलाते हैं
और
कभी घाव कर जाते हैं
शायद
अधूरे सपनों से
छेड़ छाड़ कर जाते हैं

और ये तुम्हारे साज़
पहना देते हैं सुरों को ताज
न जाने कहाँ से
गूँज उठती है अनोखी ताल
अनायास ही थिरक उठते हैं मेरे पाँव

सुर साज़ और ताल का
ऐसा अनोखा मिलन
सारी सृष्टि
आनंद विभोर हो उठी है
प्रत्येक कलाकृति
जीवंत हो गयी सारा
सारा ब्रह्माण्ड नृत्य में मग्न है

प्रेममयी अश्रु धारा में
मेरे होने का अर्थ ही धुल गया है
सब एक हो गया है
सब शांत हो गया है
सब मौन हो गया है
शेष है
एहसास
परमानन्द का

ETERNAL....

Disturbance in my soul
creates
ripple in the ocean

With a little bit of
sound
many a waves engender

That move through some
distance
eventually disappear

No wave seen after a while nor
tears
as if nothing happened ever

Born out of
nothing
dissolved into nothing

What remained for ever
is
ETERNAL

मुझे मालूम न था....

मेरी ही हसरतों ने मुझको मारा, मुझे मालूम न था!
ताउम्र गैरत को कोसता रहा;
और खुद से ही रहा गैर,
मुझे मालूम न था!

मेरी चाहतों ने ही मुझको अजगर की तरह भींचा;
खुद के खून से ही मैंने अपने दुखों को सींचा !
जो उगे उस पर फूल मेरी मौत के,
मुझे मालूम न था !

जिस जिस को कहा था ख्वाबों मैं मैंने अपना !
मेरे रिश्तों का बोझ उम्र भर घुट घुट कर वो ढोते रहे !
ऊपर से हँसते रहे हमेशा और अंदर से रोते रहे,
मुझे मालूम न था !

करना माफ़ ओ तमां जहान मुझको
तुम्हारी नफरत को मैंने ही सींचा,तुम तो रहनुमा मेरे थे !
गम के दानों को मैंने ही चुगा, तुमने तो मोती बिखेरे थे,
खुद ही खुद को ठगा, ये मुझको मालूम न था !

शुक्रगुज़ार हूँ उस खुदा का,जगाया जिसने है मुझको;
हटा के आँखों का पर्दा, दिखाया सच है मुझको !
मेरा रहनुमा मेरे इतनी नज़दीक था,
मुझे मालूम न था !

अंतर्मन की खोज

मन की संवेदनाएं
कभी आनंद से अभिभूत होती हैं
तो कभी दर्द से आहत
कभी करती हैं प्रेरित
कुछ लिखने को
कभी खोजती हैं
लकीरों में आकार
तो कभी सुरों में बंधना चाहती हैं

पर इनको
न शब्द मिल पा रहे हैं
न आकार, न ही लय
तरंगों की भांति
भीतर से उठ कर
हो जाती हैं विलय
भीतर ही कहीं

न कविता बन पाती है
न ही हो पाता है चित्रण
इन संवेदनाओं का
और न ही होता है उद्गम
किसी गीत का

घुट सा रहा है ये मन
शायद खोज रहा है
अपना अस्तित्व
ढूंढ रहा है शब्दों की बैसाखियाँ
स्वंयं होना चाहता है परिभाषित
पकड़ता है कभी रेखाओं का दामन
कभी खोजता है सुरों की सरगम

पर शायद भूल गया है
अपने ही
अंतर्मन की पहचान
जिसे इन संवेदनाओं को
समझने के लिए
न शब्द चाहिए
न सुरों का साज
न ही हैं ये
रेखाओं की मोहताज़
न कोई अपेक्षा
न शिकायत
प्रशंसा और निंदा के घेरे से मुक्त
केवल सच से ओत प्रोत
करती है उसकी हर प्रेरणा
मार्गदर्शन
हर पल
हर क्षण
ॐ